Bullying _ What Is And What Isn't

Being punished is not Bullying, the adults are in charge, there are rules to be followed!


In today's schools the newest buzz word is bullying. By students, by teachers, to students, to teachers. 

What is going on? Bullying is wrong. However, if a student misbehaves and is brought to task by the adult in charge, is that bullying?

Unfortunately not all parents are bringing their children up with manners.  When a child is in school, or at a school function, they are supposed to behave, and take direction from the adults in charge.  They are not supposed to be running around, making noise and being generally disruptive. 

Is it wrong to separate a misbehaving student from the pack? Is it wrong to give them a "time out"? 

Is raising your voice to be heard above 20 - 30 middle schoolers "inappropriate" behaviour on the part of the adult? You have to do something to get their attention.

While volunteering at a school in the area, I witnessed this happening. The adult in charge was told they had humiliated a student by having her apologize for being disruptive, to the group. I would call this teaching the student a lesson, and giving an example to the others of what happens when you misbehave.

This student and her friends, had been told repeatedly to "be quiet" in certain areas.  How long was the adult supposed to put up with this? Until her authority was completely undermined by a small group?

Parents, you have the right to defend your child, when they are treated badly. You have the right to have the bullying stopped. 

Conversely, you have to allow the adults to be in charge. They have a job to do.  If your child is not happy following the rules, they can quit.   

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